In the early days of our marriage, my husband and I went out one evening to a home exhibition and sale, as we were setting up our new home, and wanted to buy stuff for the house.
There was a sale on, for porcelain kitchenware. I was drawn like a magnet to a set of coffee mugs, that looked like pieces of tree trunks, with gnarled knobs and ring patterns. They looked unique, and so inviting.
My husband did not like these mugs at all. He wanted something simple. We argued (must have been one of the first arguments, me thinks). Finally, we agreed to disagree; and the coffee mugs came home. All six mugs are still intact and have lasted us many, many years. My husband has grown to like them over the years.
While the lasting love, commitment and promises are the foundation of a marriage, it is these simple things and moments that form the bricks of any marriage.
Be it about making up after an agreement, or letting go ‘for’ your spouse without allowing ego to walk-in to a situation.
It is about his choice versus yours many a time, and having the wisdom to disagree without malice. It is about the small joys of reading a book together or shopping for grocery. It is about egging each others’ fitness goals, and then also indulging in a huge dollop of icecream together.
It is about seeing yourselves in your children, and also realizing that your children are not you. It is about being able to laugh at yourselves and being able to cry together. It is about doing everything together, and then doing nothing together.
It is about watching movies and munching popcorn together, as much as it is about who will clear up afterwards.
It is this and that. It is black and white and all colours. It is about being a team, as much as it is about being two individuals.
It is also definitely about having strong filter coffee from coffee mugs that have witnessed all these moments in your marriage.
Just the title alone was intriguing! An insightful observation that a good marriage can’t thrive with egos that can’t / won’t compromise and work together in partnership. I like the line “the wisdom to disagree without malice”.
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Ego ia the arch rival in any relationship. Thank you dear Joanne.
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At my parents home we too have same type of mugs but they didn’t had handles ..they were kulhad shaped with this tree trunk look π I loved them always π hope to get same for my home too π I loved what you said about marriage and love and sharing π The best point was It is about being a team, as much as it is about being two individuals. π
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Thank you dear NJ. Hope you find those mugs soon
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π yeah hope so π
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Superb post in marriage Nimi… You take the mundane to sublime… Wonderful
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Thank you dear, so much
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Wow, it was hard for me to scroll past the picture of the coffee mugs. They are so unusual, I wanted to keep staring at them! Yes, marriage is so much about compromise. I think the key to making a marriage work is the extent we are willing to go to to overlook and/or embrace each other’s differences.
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Very well said Marissa. Thank you for your kind words
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Beautiful post , intelligently narrated, agreed !
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Thank you Nisthur
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How beautifully stated. I love the mugs. How wonderful they have all lasted.
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Yes..they have Katelon. Thank you for your kind words
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Sharing means caring enough to disagree without resentment.
Hence the foundation of a lasting relationship such as yours. A delightful post
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Beautiful description of how a marriage should be Nimi π
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Thank you dear
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Beautiful. Simple and beautiful at the same time.
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Thank you
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I love the way you ‘agreed to disagree’ and then the mugs came home with you anyway – the lady always gets her way π
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Oh! My secret is out..ππππ
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Nimi, fine job describing the characteristics of a happy marriage. You gave great examples and your photo of the mugs and your title were excellent. π
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Thank you Robinπ
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