In the early days of our marriage, my husband and I went out one evening to a home exhibition and sale, as we were setting up our new home, and wanted to buy stuff for the house.
There was a sale on, for porcelain kitchenware. I was drawn like a magnet to a set of coffee mugs, that looked like pieces of tree trunks, with gnarled knobs and ring patterns. They looked unique, and so inviting.
My husband did not like these mugs at all. He wanted something simple. We argued (must have been one of the first arguments, me thinks). Finally, we agreed to disagree; and the coffee mugs came home. All six mugs are still intact and have lasted us many, many years. My husband has grown to like them over the years.
While the lasting love, commitment and promises are the foundation of a marriage, it is these simple things and moments that form the bricks of any marriage.
Be it about making up after an agreement, or letting go ‘for’ your spouse without allowing ego to walk-in to a situation.
It is about his choice versus yours many a time, and having the wisdom to disagree without malice. It is about the small joys of reading a book together or shopping for grocery. It is about egging each others’ fitness goals, and then also indulging in a huge dollop of icecream together.
It is about seeing yourselves in your children, and also realizing that your children are not you. It is about being able to laugh at yourselves and being able to cry together. It is about doing everything together, and then doing nothing together.
It is about watching movies and munching popcorn together, as much as it is about who will clear up afterwards.
It is this and that. It is black and white and all colours. It is about being a team, as much as it is about being two individuals.
It is also definitely about having strong filter coffee from coffee mugs that have witnessed all these moments in your marriage.